Your spouse doesn't have to change, you do.

Listen up my friends. If I can bestow upon you one tremendously important piece of information it is this. You can be the only person who changes and see great new beginnings.  

For some of us we are waiting for the person whom we love dearly to wake up and become the person we know they can be, we want them to be or the person they promised to be. We are a mix of frustration, anger and sadness. Sometimes silently holding in these emotions and others exploding in fits of despair.  

Do we stay and keep praying, as everyone suggests. Keeping that "one day" hope alive. 

Or 

Do we go, pack it all up and never look back. Good riddance to that problem! 

Here’s is the hard truth, the problem(s) will just follow you into your next relationship. It may be hard to see in this very moment, but God is the one who brought you together. And what He is looking for is personal growth and accountability. Not all the finger pointing. Yeah, your hubby, or wife, has their issues but so do you. We are all pretty imperfect, no matter how put together and shiny we may try to appear. 

Here is where I’m going to need you to muster up some courage and humility, because looking in the mirror is going to be hard and maybe a little painful. This week’s writings (come back Tuesday and Friday) are going to focus on a few areas of our lives that we need clarity in. Our inner thoughts, reflecting and changing our own actions, and our relationship with Jesus.  

When you work on yourself, it allows you to respond to your spouse from a place of health rather than a place of hurt. 

The challenge: 

I hope you’ll except, this week we’ll be looking in the mirror and preparing to work on ourselves.  

Until next time, stay Anchored in Love & Guided by King!

Perfectly Imperfect,

Sam